Thnx again for the gift of your wisdom. I really needed to read this today – there are no co-incidences.

Been taught that fear is simply the edge of what you know, which has helped a great deal. I love the addition to that message of learning what the WHOLE of the message is, instead of the HOLE of it.

Bright Blessings & Good Fortune!
-Birdy! :>

It didn’t occur to me that I was feeling fear, although I guess if I had to pin it down, I probably would’ve said anxiety, which I know is really just a fancy word for fear (useful when one’s greatest fear is fear itself). Maybe I did subconsciously know what I was feeling though, because I was drawn to several articles about fear.

Yours resonated with me because of its description of the physical symptoms, and the idea of where to go from there. I keep re-inflating my chest to encourage the spaciousness to help me feel calm enough to reason through this fear.

So what am I afraid of? I’m afraid:
* I’m going to fail;
* I’m going to let people down;
* I’ll never get this done.

The rest of the message seems to be, “…IF I don’t give this task a reasonable amount of attention, regularly, with an adequate amount of rest in between.” (I think I’m also partly afraid that in order to finish, I must work nonstop for weeks if not months, and so if I start working, I’ll never be able to let myself stop.)

My reaction to fear tends to be to avoid the thing I’m afraid to face. Of course this doesn’t help the situation, I always know this! However, in the short term, avoidance does take my attention away from the stress and so I sort of “feel better”. This is my reward for removing the stimulus, and so my behaviour of avoiding the fear is reinforced (negative reinforcement) and thus it repeats. Second verse, same as the first, a little bit louder and a little bit worse…

I’m really hoping that I can get better at directing my attention to the message and what I can do about it, instead of letting the symptoms and automatic reactions guide my way. It’s hard, when it’s this ingrained into me, but between this article and the one of Havi’s that led me here, I am feeling very encouraged.
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Hey, I’m glad you like the pop math quizzes. That’s a bonus, eh?

I took a few Remembrance sessions to work on this.

The message is “This is too big for me to do alone.”

I’d become hooked on the idea of doing it all by myself. So I’ve had the courage to step out and ask for help. One of the things that’s been getting in my way has been that this is too big for me. So now I have other people helping me and bringing their own brilliance and contacts into the mix.

I’m going to reference this post when I write about fear later.

P.S. I really like that you ask math questions to prove that we’re real commenters. I must be the only personal on the planet who likes surprise math quizzes.

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And this is what I find right after meditating on that!

So right now, I’m thinking about listening to that fear of commitment and desire to run away and ask it what the rest of the message is.

Thank you!

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